The process of gaining self-esteem is one where you focus on what you need to enjoy the process of being you.
Q: What is the definition of self esteem?
A: Self esteem is the ability to manifest a resourceful way of being in tune with your body.
Q: So the definition of learning to enjoy the process of being you is about being in tune with your body?
Q: How do I know when I am in tune with my body?
A: You will know because your body will feel at peace.
Q: What is the best way to be in tune with my body?
A: The best way to be in tune with your body is to manage your emotions in a way that helps you find the feelings of peace in side.
Q: How is it that being in a state of non-forgiveness prevents us from being in tune with our bodies?
A: It prevents you from being in tune through not knowing where the parameters of your our own realisations affect you on a deep and personal level. For instance, if you hold a grudge against yourself, you can no longer be in tune with your body than a seismic catastrophe can seem calm.
Q: What states represent the highest level of self esteem?
A: The best states to go for are the ones that help you be privy to the existence of Love.
Q: So what are the elements that have helped you to find states of Love in the past?
A: Well the elements are such that they determine the effect of resonance in the brain.
Q: You mean love can be measured in the brain?
A: Yes, or at least how we perceive love. So it would have to be calibrated in the patient in order to understand the dynamic and its effects.
Q: Would there be a difference between 'love' we experience for ourselves, and that we feel for others?
A: The truest love is that which you feel for yourself. Without that you cannot begin to love another as you would yourself.
Q: So are you saying that the love we feel for others can only be a measure of the love we feel for ourselves?
Q: What is the true definition of loving yourself?
a: To love yourself is the true feeling of being in touch with your deepest self.
Q: Deepest self?
A: Yes. The part of you that understands you best.
Q: What is the function of that part?
A: The function of that part is to assess your ability to love yourself to the fullest. It has an uncanny ability to predict how you are going to react to a situation in any given moment. By tuning in to this essence you will be able to predict how you will respond and change the dynamic to one of a more loving outcome.
When you focus on the work you do for others you generally want to please them and make sure that they are satisfied. However, when it comes to listening to their needs, they don't generally tell you everything you need to know in order to bring about that state of satisfaction. So what can we do to enhance the way we listen to their needs as well as help them gain a perpsetive of knowing what they want and how to communicate that want?
Well the first thing is to understand how communication works to enhance relationships and second is to know how to harness that understanding in a way that embraces all they have to offer. So let's begin with an idea that we can work with, without knowing exactly how it's going to turn out. The idea is the one that focuses on how to understand what is being communicated at the level of understanding they are at. The first thing to remember is that when they speack they will be focusing on their issue and therefore will be expressing it as a representation of how they feel about it at the time. So why is this important?
The manner in which people express their ideas will give you clues as to how they are realising their ideas. This becomes important when you realise that they are focusing on what's current within the sitation they are describing and therefore they will have an idea about what they need to make it into something they want. Now we come to the part that describes how they limit themeslves in the face of gaining an understanding of how best to describe that want. The language they use will have an impact on their neurology, even though they may not be aware of exactly how that happens.
So in order to answer your question 'why is this important?', we need to understand the mechanisims by which this happens. The following paragraphs will attempt to explain something that is complex but easy to understand.
When the brain is asked to perform a task, the neurology responds by firing off neuronal activity and 'telling' the other parts of the brain to either stop or begin a certain activity. The brain then decides to shut down any activity that is not needed and begins processing information in the direction of the desired outcome. It is then able to proceed with actions it desires and allow the major apsectsof it's allegieance with the limbic system to manefest an emotional state in accordance with the perceptive response of the individual concerned. So the main idea is that when we ask the brain to perform, it organises itself into a state whereby it can carry out the necessary functions.
The state of the brain is such that it can dwell on the aspects of learning that focus on the usual trainings it has been accustomed to in order to maintain some semblance of stability, and that's a good thing. The place where it becomes an issue is when the 'good things' become 'bad things' and that's an issue that needs to be looked at carefully from an expert listener's point of view.
The viewpoint of the listener is such that it enables an understanding of how the communicator is responding to his or her own suggestions and that requires a focus of learning how to interpret the meanings. When listening to a client, it's important to understand the implications of what they are saying in the context in which they are saying it. For example, a client who presents with a deep sense of mistrust in her colleagues or business partners is experiencing a feeling that underlies her suspicions about what the person is up to behind her back. And so the idea is that she will be behave in a way that is commensurate with that idea, no matter what the reality of the situation might be. This, to a certain extent, will be the focus of the person who is telling you their story. And it is here where the listener needs most to place their focus, ie the place at which the illusion and reality meet. So the 'what's real and what's not' model of interpretation and understanding is a good place to start.
We will continue this discussion in another post but please feel free to post your comments and add any ideas you feel are important to understanding this further.
Hypnosis for a healthy heart is such that you can suggest a way forward without talking to the mind that made it sick in the first place. Retain your dignity by exposing the mind for what it is - a fraud. It thinks it knows what is best for you, but it really doesn't. It wants to show you what it can do but it really can't, not without the heart's permission. In that case it can only surmise what is best for you, because it retails its focus in undue focus on what it needs to achieve from a perspective of posing a problem to solve without knowing the reason why it's doing it. What this means is that you can train the heart to relish its position as leader in the organisation known as the body, but if the mind is not listening it (the heart) will not be able to co-ordinate all the process' that need to be managed according to the outcomes it desires. Too much thinking is not a good thing and so working to achieve balance can stabilise your efforts to live a full and healthy life.
Paul Pearsall mentions in his book 'The Heart's Code' that the heart is an energy bucket that flows with the force of life. Its power subsists within a field of energy that transposes lifes urgings into packets of experience designed to hold ideas that have meaning for the individual who is realising the dream called 'life'. So when you listen to your heart you can gauge the effectriveness of your life by knowing how well you are doing in the main work of being close to your words of praise and dignity for those you admire.