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A recent bout of nasty chest infection had me thinking about my health more closely this week. A build-up to a break down in my immune system had developed through ‘doing too much too soon’ in terms of physical exertions. I was taken down by an inability to breathe due to some obstructions in my airways. At first, I wanted to panic and almost called an ambulance, but I was reluctant as I didn’t want to go to the hospital or leave my cat. But I had to do ‘something’. My holistic healing head took over. I had some eucalyptus, a bowl, some boiling water, and a towel for my head.
 

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Inhaling the vapour helped calm my breathing, plus I knew I was doing ‘something’ to help myself. Instead of going into a blind panic, I engaged a ‘mind over matter’ strategy and began the healing process in full ‘awakened’ consciousness.
It’s for times like these that I founded The Healing Pool Magazine, whose tagline is ‘strategies for resilient living’. When we can plan and strategize our own healing, we feel more in control and thus more empowered.
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​On The Healing Pool Podcast guests are asked ‘what can you tell our listeners to help them live more resiliently?’ Check out their answers by listening to expert episodes at the link below.

Learning how to manage your emotions is a crucial skill if you want to experience the best possible version of reality. Hence many training courses are on offer to help develop emotional intelligence.

​Find a way to change how you feel and your world will open up to many opportunities. Deep breathing can help shift you out of an emotional rut by changing the chemical structure of stress, anger or frustration.

Changing your thoughts and internal dialogue can also support this move.​​

TRY THIS SIMPLE EXERCISE

Take three deep breaths expanding your diaphragm on the in breath. As you exhale allow the air to expel naturally. Then in your mind, replace any negative thoughts with positive ones. Affirm them out loud as you continue breathing deeply and slowly. You could repeat the phrase that supports how you want to feel instead. Such as I am happy, calm and relaxed.

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The mind is a tool we can use to make headway into our most valuable asset, that of using our intuition to plan and make decisions on future life scenarios.  A case in point is that of a young lady called Kate who used her intuition to plan and escape from a predatory attacker who followed her into her car in a dark parking lot.

​She was able to plan an escape route to prevent her and her daughter from a potentially traumatic situation. Here, intuition was in the form of the emotion of fear which she chose to ignore initially, but after, used to recalibrate her situation to make a plan of escape. These lessons teach us that our intuition is essential to our survival and that we need to relearn how to manipulate our mind to recognise, respect and respond to our intuitive hunches that show us the best way forward for results that keep us safe, secure and in line with our higher purpose.

Preparing your mind for learning how to be more intuitive requires three main skills.

• The ability to centre and focus your attention on the state that creates intuitive insights.
• An ability to understand how to ask good questions and
• An ability to know how to listen or pay attention to the answers. 

Creativity is the process of being in tune with the flow of energy that represents an alignment with their own inner truth. It is this alignment that we as coaches are working towards gaining a true representation around. The challenge for creative people is presenting their ideas to those who are not open to listening to their ideas.  

​When this happens we need to prepare the creative leader to communicate their ideas in a way that is useful for those that are listening to carry out. This means that we will have to be ready for challenging certain beliefs and particular patterns of behaviour. So let’s look at what we can do to change the behaviours of those who are not yet ready to hear new ideas that could potentially improve performance, resilience and attention to detail.

It is therefore the understanding that we have a message to bring to those who need to understand it and as we create a reality that indoctrinates a feasible solution to the problems clients are having we therefore create a realistic outcome that will bear the brunt of any objections to the ideas being expressed. ​

They want to achieve something that is in their best interest and that will gain traction on what it is they want to achieve therefore your product must be seen as a solution to their problem in a way that helps them achieve their own outcomes. So when your product performs to achieve the desires of your stakeholders then you have the ability to make a case for how important it is to realize the benefits and the perks of doing business with you as a business woman. ​

Micromanagement is the total opposite to becoming a leader. In fact it stifles creativity and prevents stakeholders from being imaginative and coming up with original and exciting solutions. Every day I was amazed by my student's creativity and this made me feel I could trust them to do what was needed. They in turn felt they were given a sense of autonomy over their own work process.

​Therefore leadership was centred around the client i.e. stakeholder and what was going to help them come up with creative ways to produce the outcomes that were agreed at the beginning of the task. This type of leadership nurtures creativity and fulfils organisational outcomes by looking at outputs rather than KPIs. We are automatically incorporating the best of what the stakeholder, staff member or mentor has to offer because autonomy and owning a solution is the best way to help others become a more productive member of the team. ​

We probably all have clients that make us feel less knowledgeable than we think we are by way of their insistence that the process is not working for them. They cause us to doubt our ability because we feel we have failed to make a difference to that person’s life even though they have paid us to do so. Situations like this can cause us to feel like we have moved into a state of not knowing what to do.

When it is actually the client who is creating in us a tendency to doubt our ability to help them. So with that, we need to examine why we feel the need to put ourselves in a position where we need to make changes to our situation to suit that of the client's view of the process. The answer is ‘empowerment’ or lack thereof. If you recognize this hypothetical scenario then you may be experiencing a feeling similar to your clients when they come to you for help with issues of empowerment. A quick google search gives the following definition.

We are not only witnesses to our client’s successes we are also guides and mentors to support them through their weaknesses. One of the major weaknesses we help our clients with is a lack of self-empowerment. A state that enables them to make excuses for not succeeding because they feel unable to do so. Our job as therapists, coaches, and mentors is to create an environment where they feel safe to express their fears when it comes to being self-sufficient around personal success.

How we utilize what I refer to as a ‘safe space’ depends on the way in which we process their issues going forward. For example, if we are dealing with a mother who is having issues with her children who are not co-operating with her requests, it might be best not to mention that her leadership skills need improving until she has come to terms with the idea that making changes in her own behavior on necessary.

​The idea would be that she has a firm understanding of what needs to be achieved behaviourally before applying it to the concept of leadership. This is because we have discovered a pattern perhaps from childhood that needs healing before she can move on. Being sensitive to the needs of your client is crucial to enable a safe space to occur in which the client can express what she needs during the process.

Being Heard
When you feel heard, your words are authentically reflected back to you by the person who is listening. Not only that, they (the words) will amplify the deeper meaning of what you expressed. This communication skill is a blessing to those who need to understand what it’s like to be in the position of noticing another person’s experience.
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If you engage your client in the facts about a situation, you are expecting them to analyze the process that is not existent within their emotional body and therefore they will not respond in a way that that is useful to the process being fulfilled. Accepting that they have an emotional body that is willing to respond to empathic communication is one of the first concepts that we need to grasp as coaches mentors teachers trainers. A word of caution is that if you reflect back words without all the elements of compassion, respectful listening, once coach says “I have found that when people repeat back to me too often it can feel thoroughly inauthentic”.

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The idea that empathy is a destructive element within the therapeutic process is quite prevalent throughout the coaching community. However, we may risk creating a situation whereby the client cannot engage with us on an emotional level because it does not feel authentically safe.

​What I mean by authentically safe is that the coach is not just going through the motions of supporting the client through understanding their situation they are actually creating an environment where the communication of emotional sentience is a key factor in how information gets processed. Jen Tiller states that “Respecting and honoring where they at, and using only healthy rapport to support them, is essential”

If you have ever felt a similar experience where ‘not being heard’ has become a factor when describing an emotional experience you will know exactly what I am talking about. This is because you’ve had the experience and you can empathize with the same. One therapist’s thoughts on whether or not empathy is useful states that “Depends entirely on the issue they are seeking help with, I can't help but empathize if I've "been there". Another states that [it] “Depends on what you're trying to elicit from the client in that moment! Sometimes it's useful - other times, stupidity patterns need to be pointed out "in their face" style... “.

Empathy needs to be seen as a tool that can be manipulated for certain situations to allow the client to feel accepted in how they are dealing with the situation. No matter where they start from, the emotional communication between a client and therapist needs to be an honest and functional space where the processing of true feelings can be nurtured in order to facilitate the safe creative space where change and transformation can happen more easily.

So, in conclusion, we need to understand our client’s position so that we can move them on from where they started to a place where they have progressed usefully towards an outcome that is geared towards self-empowerment.

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Manifesting magically
In ‘time’ we feel as though we are creating a rod for our own back if we work towards a goal we want to achieve. But what if making success easy was as simple as A, B, C? How can we help Our clients realise the true meaning of success? ​

First to Market
The principle of being first to market is such that people perceive you as being the first to provide an offer that allows them to be users of a new product or service. Your brand will be associated with making changes to the way they use or consume a product or service. Hence we are given the opportunity to serve and supply a demand that has not yet matured to the point of saturation. ​

This allows us to develop procedures within our business that creates a process for ensure leverage on the ideas that get generated for business purposes. So let’s say that you come up with a new idea that transposes how people feel about how they used to operate, such as technological or practical application of old systems such as accounting. ​

In the case of technological ideas, you might need to test your product with new markets that have not yet been exposed to your idea. This will take careful planning and organisation to allow for rigorous testing, reporting and recording of results.

But if you wish to take your product to market without knowing the impact it will have on first time users, you will be risking a reputation for making decisions without knowing what the product will be helpful for in terms of satisfying customer needs. Therefore, new products will need to be tested to the point of knowing what the outcomes will be and the impact on customer lives. ​

You would check the product description and compare that with others on the market. The final decision would be made based on what you needed it to achieve. So therefore, picking a product that most closely describes ease of use, light weight and powerful would satisfy someone whose values are saving energy, reduction in physical pain and cleanliness.

Therefore realising that your product has values built into it must be one of the key ideas that support the marketing messages that are prominent on your platforms before they’ll even consider buying what you have to offer.

​Only then, will they deem it valuable and worth their time and effort in researching and reviewing their decision to buy your product. ​

​A social community in terms of interactive engagement is just that; social. In other words its main aim is to interact socially and gain a sense of satisfaction from doing so. A niche, on the other hand is a sector of society that has a specific need or problem to solve. In terms of a marketing perspective, this distinction is crucial to understanding how to approach each for the purpose of building your brand and business potential. Let’s start with building your brand awareness and then on to building your business potential later.  

Building Brand Awareness
Your brand is your personality and your personality is what attracts your market to your door. So how you present yourself will be an important factor in how you market your business. So first things first!
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Branding is the process of presenting an ‘image’ to your potential customers that they will want to engage with. Therefore, having the right image will be the most important consideration to take into account when planning your marketing strategy. It’s also important to know that using images to support your branding messages is an important consideration when motivating your market to take action.  

Brand awareness is created through making your audience aware that you exist. There are many mediums through which this can be achieved and is why it’s important to be consistent in your branding activities. Why is it that when you recognise a brand image or logo that you associate it with either a negative or positive message? Think about how you perceive this message and why. Did they do something to increase your perception of how they operate or did they make you think twice about how you go about engaging with them? 

Thinking about these things can give you insights as to what you will be achieving in your own branding awareness campaign. Now that we have thought about what you can do to ensure you get off on the right foot. We can now look at how you are going to achieve a sizeable impact on your market niche.  ​

Niche Marketing
Niche marketing presents a whole new opportunity to be creative in how you present messages to your audience. A niche will need what you have to offer only if it solves a particular problem or issue for them NOW! Therefore, your message will highlight the issues and map them out in a way that is clear and understandable.  

Let’s say for example, you are speaking to an audience that needs something to ensure they are living their best life. How will they know if this is the case? You might start by asking if something is missing in their life, or you might highlight an area such as money and what the impact of not having enough might be. However you decide to ‘angle’ your message, it must explain why you feel it’s important to understand.

​You might reason that not having enough money is limiting your potential to travel and this impacts your ability to see family and enjoy precious moments which are important for a well balanced and healthy life. You can spin it in which ever way you see fit according to your own knowledge and expertise in this area. By doing this you are highlighting what needs to be realised in the minds of your niche market audience.  

When people know why they are buying something at a deeper level, it gives them the reason to choose your product over others because they feel you have really understood their needs. Why is this important? Because they are more likely to believe your product will give them the solution they are looking for.

So to recap, not only do you need to present the right image to your niche and market communities, you also need to ensure the messages you send out are in the right frame of mindset to fit your audience needs.